What's your worth? (updated 5/18)

I want you to write down or mentally make a list of your positive and negative qualities.

We find ourselves being asked to do that, from job interviews or interviews and even dating site or making friends online. I think each of us have to really think to ourselves : “How do I describe myself? Do others see me that way?” Do I have self-worth? Can I see how valuable I am? Or have I let the opinions of others destroy my self-worth?

Let’s start with the definition of self-worth: “the sense of one's own value or worth as a person."

The generation of millennial's are the most tech savvy generation of all currently. Of course we're going to take advantage of it. I need to show all my friends my breakfast, my post workout selfie, my constant opinions or simple statements. When you share your life with the world, expect the world to respond back. Of course, most social media is available to all and there will be people who take a sick pleasure in destroying, insulting, threatening, and generally being cruel to others.

Even if you take the internet away, people seem to be more confrontational, start rumors, and some are even willing to insult you to your face. Men insult women for trivial things such as not having sex with them, breaking up, or even just to be malicious. Add in the girls/boys who drag other girls/boy down such as the instance of slut shaming which I cover in a later blog.

Basically, it would seem the world is out to drag you down. We're seeing an increase in plastic surgery or other cosmetic procedures, lower self-esteem at a younger age, increased suicides, less motivation to attempt more difficult things, and even just feeling worthless. You know the feeling when you're sad and you feel like you provide nothing to the world.

What are you supposed to do?

You can build up your self-worth. Self-worth is inside of you, but perhaps it wasn't nurtured correctly allowing you to see that you have value as a person. Trust me, even if you don't see that you have meaning in the world, you do. You matter. You are someone's shoulder to cry on, someone's child to love, you're someone first and maybe even last love, you are a trust friend to confide in, you offer the advice someone needs to hear, YOU ARE SOMEONE and that means that YOU MATTER.

Building up your self-worth takes time, patience, forgiveness to yourself and others, an open heart and mind, and the honest want to change. You may be uncomfortable confronting your demons, all skeletons in your closet. But ignoring them only shines a light on the negative things inside of you. If you want to change your life, you have to face the ugly parts, plant new seeds of positivity, and nourish the changes that begin to grow. You had to get rid of the things that make you feel unworthy, which can be thoughts, people, places that trigger negative thoughts or actions, or whatever else is causing that worthless feeling consuming you.

Every person has something special and unique to offer the world, but we may not be to give that if you don't believe in yourself. If you don’t respect yourself, others won’t either. If you don't embrace your value, other's will tarnish you. You, yes you reading this, are priceless. While looking beautiful on the outside is a great feeling, you won't be able to truly FEEL beautiful if you hate yourself. We each have our own story in this life, one that has shaped who we are, how we are around others, what we bring to the table, but our story isn’t finished.

You are the author of your own life. Each time you tell a story, write about an experience, anyway you share your history all you have to do is remember that you're in charge of how you tell it. While you can't make things people or even yourself have done or said, you can forgive. You can move on from the past, you don't need to take it with you everywhere you go. You have to take a hard look at yourself and who you are, be brutally honest about what needs to change and work on it.

Slowly but surely, other's opinions will become just that. Their opinion. It won't affect your sense of self because you will know who you are and embrace whatever unique gift you have to give to world.

You can also do this for others. You can help every other person see their worth. You can give compliments to a stranger, friends, family, and strangers online. You can help others to see how important the value of self-worth is and if we empower enough people, we can watch as change happens. I spent a lot of time discouraged by the world around me, seeing how people treated each other, how we value looks over personality, how the modern relationship has turned into a joke but if we each take the time to work on ourselves, raise our worth, and hold our boundaries if someone dare try to take that from us, we can spark a revolution.

You are beautiful. You are smart. You are funny. You are amazing. YOU ARE WORTHY. You are creative. You are unique. You are YOU. You are one of a kind.

Vibe higher,

Lobeless

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