How to be Attractive. Part 2

So now that we have an understanding on how/why we’re attracted to certain people, perhaps you’re wondering if there anything you can do to get noticed more.But I assume if you’re reading this, you’re curious so let’s see what all our scientist and psychology friends have to say.

You can have the most amazing personality and qualities inside but sadly, they’re going to judge your appearance first. We all do it. Many people say looks don’t matter, but they do, it’s just our opinions differ.

You don’t need to be a supermodel. You don’t need to change your look entirely. You don’t need a plastic surgeon.

Every single person is beautiful in their own way, it just takes that ONE person to see the beauty and appreciate it, but a few tips could help you put your best self forward and can increase the odds of getting noticed.

For Women:

• Smile more- I know every feminist just got incredibly angry. Even if you’re not a feminist, I hate being told to smile, all that runs through my mind is “Who are they to tell me to smile? I’ll smile if I want!” But, research has shown men are more attracted to women who smile and radiate happiness. Men want to see their partner happy so when they see one smile, it immediately catches their attention.

• Natural look- When wearing make-up, the natural look rated more favorably than more intense dramatic make-up, which made the woman viewed as untrustworthy.

• Add Vanilla- The smell of vanilla actually enhances a women’s natural pheromones. It can trigger happy memories from childhood and vanilla is shown to promote a calm and comfortable mentality, reduce stress and even relieve anxiety.

• Cheerleader Effect- Women appear to be more attractive within a group of girlfriend, this is known as the cheerleader effect. For Men:

• Be the bad boy- or at least look the part. Women find swaggering and brooding men more appealing than smiling

• Time to shave- Women rated men with beards less attractive as they visually came off aggressive looking.

• Channel your inner comedian- Women are more attracted to men who can make them laugh, though men don’t care if a woman is funny as much. This is explained by the fact that funny people are considered more social and intelligent (things women desire).

• Show disposable income- Men spend less money on clothing and shopping but it has been shown that men will spend substantially more if they’re actively dating than married. Their clothing can project social status by conveying an idea of where they shop and that they have access to disposable income, a feature women like.

• Gifts: Men are more eager to mate (due to evolution. Survival of the species perhaps) therefore will do things to impress a woman. Such as bringing her material gifts or gifts of food.

For Both Women and Men:

• HYGIENE- Take care of yourself, shower, deodorant, clean clothing, good oral health, all of those things.

• Take up Space- Both men and women found it more attractive when a potential mate used excessive hand gestures and an expansive posture, taking up as much space around them as possible.

• Forget the weather- When having a conversation with a potential partner, skip all the small talk. Studies have shown that when one began immediately asking more probing questions, they both felt more connected.

• Body language- Showing open body language and easily read facial and body expressions has been shown to be important. Partners must easily understand the emotions of their potential partner’s current intentions and motivation, while anticipating their behavior and adopting a behavior to best match it.

• Where’s your halo?- The “halo effect” is an idea that suggested those perceived as physical attractiveness also possessed favorable personality traits such as kindness and compassion.

• Don’t forget your watch- Being on time is incredibly attractive and appealing to the opposite sex. It not only represents their personal principals but priorities along with insight into how you view and treat others. Being on time shows you respect and value their time, along with showing you are able to keep commitments and promises.

Though no study has completed perfected the idea of understanding of how attraction works. It’s believe by many that what we find attractive is fluid depending on society, how we were raised, our values, and simple preferences. It has even shown genetics can come into play with acquiring initial interest in someone.

Honestly, I feel the most attractive thing is to be yourself, sure if you’re out looking for attention, clean up and add a little zest, which can give you more confidence and we all know confidence is sexy. After you’ve gained attention from your potential interest, allow your unique traits to shine through. That’s what makes you stand out compared to the girl down the bar. By being yourself, conversations will change from superficial to personal and intimate.

Be sure to always show the same respect you wish to receive. Be curious about more than looks or how they are in bed (unless that’s what you’re going for) and get to know them on a deeper level. Show interests in their goals and traits, while showing them yours to see if it’s a match. After all this, you have learn if they’re interested in investing in you and a relationship with you.

Never compromise who you are for a partner, because for a real partner, you should never have too. These are “tips” but more than that, it’s just studies done by scientists and psychologists. While you may crave having a partner, to not be yourself is not only lying to them but yourself and is a partnership that will never last.

Vibe Higher,

Lobeless