Deadly Relationships: The Positives

Now you know the common traits of socio/psychopaths.

I want to make sure everyone fully understands that socio/psychopaths are not what you see in the movies. Both operate on a spectrum and can actually be highly successful in life and business. I’m arming you with knowledge which allows you to make educated decisions about who you allow in your life and to what capacity.

I spent a lot of time through the years looking into both types. My plan was to write this entry based on being with one and what to do, but honestly, it’s basically the same thing as a relationship with anyone else, they just have a lack of connection and typically don’t feel emotions.

That sentence in itself is confusing. How does someone exist if they don’t have emotions? Without being one myself, I can’t tell you what they feel. I would have to image they have emotions but perhaps the feelings are different from ours. I would love to speak with actual people live with these on any range on the spectrum.

While researching, I thought to myself, is there any positives to being a socio/psychopaths?

All the information I found was written by individuals who are diagnosed as one or the another. Even they have a mixed view. But I want to show some of the positive that can come from being one or another. The positive traits, while self serving but cause no harm to other, come from high functioning sociopaths and psychopaths.

“There was never a genius without a tincture of madness” - Aristotle

• We have the assumption that because they lack empathy, they will always chose what is most beneficial for them. One person explained that having 40 people who think highly of you is more much useful and beneficial to them in the long run, instead of 40 people for the short term. By establishing a long term relationship involves doing things that cost them nothing but benefit others. With these reciprocal relationships, you can receive favors or benefits without having to express empathy or feelings.

• Empathy can get in the way of making important decisions, especially group decisions. Empathy and feelings can cloud your judgement though “normal” people still factor emotions into what decision we choose.

• A socio/psychopath bases things on facts and science, not opinions. They are incredibly logical. They also don’t overthink things. They don’t have to worry about consequences or how others are affected.

• They have a freedom most don’t have. They’re able to do what they want, get what they want, be who they want with feeling plagued by things like guilt, remorse or empathy.

• They don’t care enough to partake in “dramatics” such as gossip, eavesdropping, talking behind other’s back, backstabbing, or similar things. They don’t care what people think about them or about fitting into popular groups like some others. They only desire to come off as a normal person and they excel at that.

• They possess this unshakable confidence about themselves. The only opinion that matters is their own, other’s opinions don’t affect how they feel and think of themselves.

• While most people are meek and tend to not say what’s on their mind, even if it’s affecting them intensely. Socio/psychopaths don’t have that problem. They will tell you straight to your face what is on their mind, without care or concern it may hurt your feelings.

• On the spectrum, the ones that are high functioning can do better than a high functioning “normal” person. There detachment can come in incredibly handy in a lot of careers.

• The top ten careers you’ll find a high functioning individual are: CEO’s, Lawyers, Media Personality, Salesperson, Surgeons, Journalists, Police Officer, Clergy person, Chef, and Civil Servant.

Looking at those careers, the ability to detach would make you highly successful in that field. Without emotion there is no bias meaning the decisions, choices, and abilities are all logic based and chosen, not a reaction. If a police officer let emotions take over in a highly stressful or violent situation, it could cause them to lose focus and get hurt or worse, killed. With no emotion, you’re making calculated decisions based on the situation at hand, nothing else.

Each and every person who deals with these issues, that has been diagnosed as socio/psychopath, is on a different part of the spectrum. Every human possess at least one, if not more, traits. It doesn’t make you sociopath or psychopath, it makes you human. Like I said, this is merely knowledge passed from me to you that saved me from unnecessary emotional pain.

I’m going to attempt to film my story (although the new windows update keeps showing an error and shutting my webcam down), I may have to film on my iphone or try to find a way to perhaps make an audio file, much like a podcast. I feel it would be much better to hear and see me talk about it compared to writing it. I think with emotional topics, it’s best in a more face to face or able to see someone to see the person. Wish me luck!

Vibe Higher,

Lobeless

*Also when talking about sociopaths and psychopaths, throughout the series, I’m referring to people who fit a very distinct set of personality characteristics. Nothing is meant to put down, create fear, bash, insult, or any other negative thing. My aim has and always will be to educate unless the blog is completely opinion based (Example- Sad Girl Rants). I do offer my sincere apologizes if anyone was offended or felt I may have approached a topic in a poor way.*